October 31, 2012
I met a gal playing sand volleyball on the beach. She was a doctor (neurologist). We went out a few times, then started dating, spending the night at her place etc.
Red Flag #1: She told me her mom was visiting Memorial Day weekend so we couldn’t hang out that weekend. Then, a few days before the weekend, she ‘slips’ and says a guy friend from high school is flying across country to visit her. When I confronted her, she got flushed/flustered (or at least acted that way) and said he would be sleeping on the couch and its not a problem he’s just a friend. Frankly, I think she was playing a big game with me to try and get me worked up. I was like ‘whatever’ and at this point, perhaps subconsciously, knew she was not a keeper just a sleep-with-er.
Red Flag(s) #2: Every once in awhile, had to cancel getting together or had to decline getting together b/c had other plans. This didn’t happen very often, maybe 1x every 2 months…yet she would go into a diatribe and whine, nag, guilt trip me, etc.
Red Flag #3: I borrowed an electrical extension cord from her apt once b/c I needed it for my laptop to do a presentation at an office for work. I unplugged the TV and took the cord, but forgot to tell her I was taking the cord. On my way back, she texted me why TV wasn’t working; I said I had the ext cord and was on way back. Her text reply was “WTF? Dude, that is bullshit. Don’t fuck with my shit!” Again, just for borrowing an extension cord.
Red Flag #4: I gave her a Nordstroms gift card for Christmas. When her parents came to visit around the Holidays, her mom ‘made her’ use the gift card to buy her dad a Christmas gift – a jacket or something at Nordstroms. In fact, her mom had a lot of control and say over her. Not a good sign when a 35yr old woman cannot break free from her mom.
Red Flag #5: When we first became intimate, I stayed the night at her place…and found dozens and dozens of condoms in her dresser drawers. She told me she had bought them a few months before meeting me, for ‘just in case’…she didn’t go into detail (in fact, she loved to try and be overly ‘mysterious’ and want me to wonder/doubt things…but I was onto that game and just shrugged my shoulders like whatever).
My advice to All Men: Probably 95% of American women, and perhaps women in the world today, are little princesses, Cluster Bs, and just waiting to mind-fuck you and/or take your money. Don’t get married, don’t get tied down. I’m 42 and can tell you after one divorce already, these nutsy women aren’t worth it…